What is Emotional Instability ?
In the previous post, I discussed Emotions in general and the very first topic ,in depth, that I am going to explain to you is the Emotional instability. Why are you emotionally instable, what are its reasons and how you can correct it. Emotional instability is the term used to describe when the person’s ability over their mind, thought and emotions is not synchronised and has practically no control over how they feel. Sometimes they question what they feel. In simple terms, over-exaggeration emotions at any given situation.
Emotional Instability is now considered a legitimate psychological disorder. It is estimated that every year around millions of people suffers from it. Generally speaking, women have higher chances of being diagnosed with this disorder than men.
The most primary problem faced by us in today’s society is the inability to focus on simple tasks and overactive thought process which leads to emotional instability. If we want to make these things right then let’s look.
An instabe mind can cause more harm to itself then anyone can think about
The Cause of emotional instability
There are many key factors that can cause the instability in emotions
PTSD ( Post Trauma Stress Disorder ): – Which is caused by awful experienced events in life which trigger anxiety and flashback of the same event or related to it. In this specific disorder, we give importance more to experience and the feeling caused by it. If not resolved then that person will attract the similar experience in life by all time thinking about it, The more they’ll think the more they’ll see it. For example, you appeared for the exam and you failed it or got a low grade this is a very normal event and can come in any person’s life, but then the scolding and breaking of parents expectations and the shame caused due to comparison among peers. When all this mixes the person who is facing this will start fading away their self-confidence in result feeling of intense guilt of failure. Now whenever that person will have to give any sort of exam this experience of his life will play flashback and he’ll prejudge the outcome even before trying it.
Low Self-esteem:- This is another triggering factor. Low self-esteem is associated with low confidence and feelings of inferiority complex. In most cases, low self-esteem is caused due to body image issues. If this issue is not addressed in a safe environment, It can lead to acute depression, eating disorders such as Anorexia nervosa, Bulimia nervosa, binge eating etc., or social isolation.
Unresolved childhood trauma:- If a child is exposed to events of high trauma such as physical abuse, sexual abuse, feelings of neglect or abandonment by parent(s), witness to abuse, any violent or non-violent death, bullying or any other such scenarios, the child as an adult would have higher chances of having emotional instability disorder. But if these issues are not acknowledged or if the child does not receive appropriate help, the child is sure to develop this disorder.
Symptoms of Emotional Instability
Over exaggerated emotions:- The primary symptom which is constant for all is over exaggerated emotional responses to any given situation. The person would cry even for the tiniest issues or get angry for really small reasons.
Opposite emotional reactions for a situation:- Here, the person will show entirely opposite emotional reactions than what is considered normal for a reaction. Like, for example, the person will be depressed when he or she is in a happy situation or laugh in a really sad situation.
Intense mood swings:- is another symptom. If the person was happy one moment, he or she will appear highly annoyed and angry the next.
Intensifying situations:- Making a mountain out of a molehill. This expression best describes a person with this disorder. To them, even a small paper cut seems as if their limbs have been cut. They always intensify and then respond to a situation, often making them more serious than they appear.
What You Can Do About It?
Stop over exaggerating situations:- When we over exaggerate situations, we not only intensify the seriousness of the situation but we also set a different course of result for this situation. This will involve lots of your emotional energy, resulting in destabilising yourself. For example, when a couple fights, if they stick to the same point they are fighting over then, they will possibly come to a conclusion to end the fight for once and all but if they include past issues then, the argument will not come to an end and will include not only anger but also emotions such as hurt, betrayal and so on.
Stop feeling EVERYTHING:- Avoid feeling all the emotions at all the time. If you don’t control it then, the unrequired emotions will cloud your judgement and will weaken your sense of survival. Like when you are thinking about your future, it is very constructive to plan it with some amount of worry. But to think about your future with miserable situations like being broke and homeless will set you upon the path of negative emotions such as fear, anxiety, stress and ultimately depression.
Live in the present:- Stop living in the future! At times we have all thought about the future or the world of fantasy that we have made for ourselves and imagine that maybe in a few years we will be living it. It’s a good thing to think about your general future. But living in it at the present moment causes an emotional hurricane of expectations, desperation and desire. We often forget that to live that dream we need to be in present and work for it. This will take us closer to our set future and give a sense of accomplishment.
Stop Complaining and start being gracious:- When we complain about anything in general, we create a sense of insecurity and unsatisfaction and as I said earlier, these habits take the time to build up and if it is done regularly, you will sort of develop the void called unsatisfaction in your life. And with this given emotion it will be impossible to cherish your life. Start being gracious. Have an open mind and believe that everything works out in the end.
Get medical help:- I feel if you consciously implement these techniques in your life on a regular basis then, you should be able to see and feel emotional stability. However, if none of these seem to bring any improvement then do not be afraid to seek medical help.
A new point of view:
It’s really okay that we feel emotionally instable in life, After all, It’s life and we need to live all the phases and this phase is one of them. In ancient times there we no good equipment or the resources that were able to identify this serious phase of life, people called it life in general thus they either left their dreams or gave up on life, But today it’s different, the energy is different and we need to understand what runs in our brains so that we can understand it and live the life that we have dreamed of.. Share this article and let your dearest one who faces any of the mentioned symptoms can understand this and overcome it before the symptoms overcome them.